The Joy is being sucked out of everything

Is it just me or is the joy being sucked out of everything anymore? I mean everything.

I used to enjoy photography groups online but then suddenly, if you weren’t photographing this or that you were wrong. Now it’s if you dare to photograph a black person and you are white, you are wrong. I kid you not. That was the directive in a group I was in and left because good grief! Can we stop trying to control everyone else and take the joy out of everything.

I don’t share my photography online anymore and I’ve abandoned Instagram because I’ve watched too many photographers bullied for how or what they create.

Someone is always offended.

Someone is always pointing out what they think someone else is doing wrong.

Someone always wants to prove they are superior to someone else because they think one way or another.

It’s even spilled into the churches.

I’m quite fed up and am tired of being told how to create, how to eat, how to talk, and I am certainly over being told how to think.

People, seriously, stop sucking the joy out of everything. Please.

Stop overthinking.

Stop overthinking for other people at least.

Photograph what you want.

Sketch what you want.

Create what you want.

Write what you want.

Believe you want.

And, please, don’t tell others how to do any of those things.

Focus on your own life and move the bloody heck on.

Written by Lisa R. Howeler

I'm a mom, a wife, a writer, a photographer and a former journalist. I write a little bit about a lot of things on my blog Boondock Ramblings. In September of 2019 I self-published my first novel, A Story to Tell and published another one in May of 2020. I enjoy John Wayne and Cary Grant movies, Jan Karon's books, and I have an electic taste in music. Welcome to my blog and feel free to poke around. Fridays are Fiction Fridays, where I share a piece of fiction I'm working on.


  1. Someone needed to say this! THANK YOU! Seriously! Let’s stop trying to FIND ways to be offended… aren’t there enough things going on already? Do we really need to stir up more hate? I’m just sick of it!

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  2. amen and amen
    Philosophies of photography are an individual’s choice and personal journey, not a tool for mob mentality. This practice (unfortunately) was established by the “masters” and those who sought to segregate and marginalize.

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