No longer making the first contact

Me, for years: “Hey, friend, haven’t heard from you in a long time. How are you?”

Friend: “Oh my gosh! So glad you messaged, called, texted! I’m great! It was so nice to hear from you! How nice! Bye!”

Friend for years: SILENCE SILENCE SILENCE SILENCE

Me, finally: “Hey, friend, haven’t heard from you in a long time. How are you?”

Friend: “Oh my gosh! So glad you messaged, called, texted! I’m great! It was so nice to hear from you! How nice! Bye!”

Friend for years: SILENCE SILENCE SILENCE SILENCE

So this has gone on with a number of my “friends” for about 20 years. I contact, they thank me and then I never hear from them to ask me “Hey, are you still alive? Did you die or fall off the face of the earth?” Until I am the one to contact them again.

So, this year I’ll be 42 and I’m pretty tired of games and I’m pretty tired of being the one who does the contacting but is never contacted.

So, this year – I stopped.

And no one noticed.

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Written by Lisa R. Howeler

As a writer, photographer and former journalist, Lisa R. Howeler writes a little bit about everything on her blog Boondock Ramblings. She's a wife and a mother and enjoys a good John Wayne movie and a cozy Jan Karon book. She's also a freelance writer and photographer who is a contributor to various stock agencies, including Lightstock and Alamy. Her photography work focuses on documentary and photojournalism. She recently released her first novel 'A Story to Tell' on Amazon.

5 comments

  1. Story of my entire life. I used to think I was just picking the wrong people to be friends with, until I had a super clingy friend in college. Honestly haven’t complained about not hearing from people since. Though, when I do see pictures of groups of people in social media, I always wonder how on Earth that happened. And that maybe I just don’t drink alcohol enough for people to consider fun.

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    1. I wonder the same about the alcohol but actually none of my “friends” are big drinkers so that can’t be it. I must just be too opinionated or boring or dumb or fat or I don’t even know anymore

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  2. Oh my gosh…this is happening to so many of us. It is sad that we live in a world that is so easy to communicate with one another and yet people don’t seem to want to. I am also someone who has decided to stop trying with communicating with the invisible friends too. I mean they seam invisible. Anyway, hope you and your family are having a great weekend. You have discovered what is important, just be happy and live every day surrounded by the ones who do care and love you.

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