Saturday Evening Chat: A tour of rural roads, a long playdate and sleepover, pool days and water balloon fights

Today it rained all day. Life moved slow and I was okay with that.

“Don’t forget to take the Marsh Road to avoid the road construction,” my husband texted me Friday morning. I did as he said, avoiding the main highway, and taking the more scenic route via a back road, on my way to pick up groceries.

I came to the end of that road and found myself here:



In the middle of said road construction. This made me decide to take a right here:

Which would take me down the hill and after the bridge at the end of the road, to the left and up past my parents’ house, and then around some winding dirt roads back to the main highway again.

When I got further onto that road, however, there was a township tractor or whatever it was, doing some dirt or stone (or something) spreading so I had to pass that once he waved at me to do so.

From there it was fairly straightforward to the highway and Aldi for my grocery pickup.

On the way back I decided I would take a different detour to my parents to drop off a few groceries I picked up for them so I had another tour of the back roads of the township my parents live in. That road features a lot of one-lane roads, which inspired me to make a silly video for Erin at Still Life, With Cracker Crumbs because I like to joke we live in the middle of nowhere since we do actually have to drive 20 minutes one-way to get to our grocery store and a Walmart is 40 minutes either direction. We also have one stop light in our entire county so…yeah…we do live in the middle of nowhere.

The views of fields, farmland, woods, and ponds are very nice on those small roads, though, so I like taking this detour once in a while. Never at night, however.

The drive on the way back took me by the house of a distant cousin where we have a family reunion every autumn and also the house of the widow of a former co-worker of mine. He had cancer and was not very old when he passed away so it’s sad to drive by there.

The road also takes me past the family-owned greenhouse that is open about a month and a half out of the year and then closes its doors for the rest of the year. The wife of the couple who opened it is in her 80s now and her husband passed away a few years ago.

Once I dropped off the groceries and left my parents I took another detour to get back to my house. Little Miss wanted to pick up her favorite popsicles at the local Dollar General so we took yet one more middle-of-nowhere detour/shortcut to bypass the road construction to get to the Dollar General.

That’s one thing about our little town – we now have only one supermarket left but we have two dollar stores – a Dollar General and a Family Dollar – and we have two gas stations next to the one stoplight in the whole county.

I should add, by the way, that my parents actually live in the next county over but only about five miles from us.

For some reason that makes me think of a story my dad used to tell me about a man who talked really slow. He ran a store, I believe, in our little tiny village where I grew up and my parents still live. A man stopped and asked him for directions. This was probably in the late 40s or early 50s. Anyhow, the man who needed directions asked the man at the store for directions but the man at the store spoke very slowly so he started, “Well, you go up here about five miles and you take a left…”

The man who asked for directions was in a very big hurry so he said, “Thanks” and left.

Unfortunately, he hadn’t let the man at the store finish so he got lost and had to come back.

“I thought you said to go up five miles and make a left!” he said to the storekeeper.

The storekeeper, still speaking very slowly, said, “I wasn’t finished before you left. I was going to say that after you take the left, you go about two more miles and take a right….”

That story could be a good life lesson – reminding us all we need to slow down and listen to our elders, our family, and our God, or we are bound to get lost.

On Wednesday and Thursday of this week, Little Miss had a friend over to go swimming with us at my parents. Bad storms were coming through that night so we ended up having an impromptu sleepover.

I slept with them downstairs and slept on the couch, something I will not do again. I am old and that couch was not comfortable so at 5:30 I left them in the living room and hobbled upstairs for a couple more hours of sleep.

The girls had a lot of fun swimming and Little Miss even started to learn how to go underwater, something she has not yet been comfortable doing.

Even The Boy jumped in, something he rarely does these days as a “mature teenager.”

Little Miss and her friend had a water balloon fight on Thursday, even though the temps were a little cool for summer.

Today it is raining outside and we are under both a flash flood and a tornado watch. We are hoping that neither of those things happen. Before the rain started to fall, the kids and I visited the cemetery near my parents to place flowers at the graves of my infant sister (she died when she was two days old about five years before I was born), my great-grandparents, great-aunt and great-great-grandparents.

Tomorrow we will most likely have lunch with my parents and maybe swim if the weather is warm enough.

How was your week last week? Did you do anything fun or exciting or anything relaxing? I’d love to know!

Saturday Afternoon Chat: Young girls shouldn’t be on TikTok, the weather is blargh! and watching the old Nancy Drew Show

This whole week was me trying to decompress and stay cool inside the house. The temps for us, as they were for many of you if you are in the U.S. (especially the Northeast), were very, very high. We are not used to those high temps so many of us hid inside our house with the AC.

Our house doesn’t have windows that open up (they roll out) so we have to use portable AC units that usually cool the house down in summer but really struggled with a heat index that hit 103  to 110 for three days in a row.

We have two units – one for upstairs and one for down. The upstairs one is not doing much at all because we have to put it at the top of our stairs since these units need a hose that goes out through a window and that is the most centralized place to put it to try to cool the entire upstairs.

We are considering another, smaller unit in case we have more high temps like this later in the summer. For now, we will deal with what we have.

I hope you are all managing okay in the heat.

During the heatwave Little Miss had a couple of friends visit briefly. Sadly, neither of the sisters seemed to know how to play anymore because they had been allowed to go on TikTok – for what reason, I have no idea. The children are 9 and almost 11 and do not live locally year round so my daughter only sees them once a year now.

They couldn’t put their phones down and ended up only being here an hour before they had to leave for other things.

The first day the one sister left because Little Miss had a bit of a sinus thing/possible cold going on. The second day, the other sister left to see a relative she doesn’t see much since the girls now live in another state.

Even before, that, though, she sat on the floor and scrolled on her phone instead of playing with my daughter. The next sister to visit a couple of days later also couldn’t put her phone down and it was clear she didn’t know how to stop scrolling. I told her TikTok wasn’t allowed in my house so she did put the phone down but proceeded to have a dazed look the next 15 minutes she was here as well as deciding to play a game on her phone less than two minutes after I told her to get off TikTok instead of interacting with my daughter.

It was more than disgusting for me to see those kids so hooked on their phones that they couldn’t even look up from them – it was frightening.

We are losing our kids to devices and social media and I think a lot of us don’t know what to do because we are just as addicted. I have been addicted myself so I know that this epidemic of cellphone use and social media scrolling is not limited to children.

The problem is that children are way more susceptible to becoming addicted to sites/apps like TikTok because the frontal lobe of their brains are not yet developed and that part of the brain that controls addiction is very fresh and alive, ready to be manipulated.

It has been hard for me even at my age to stop scrolling or reaching for my phone to check Instagram. Any time I want to procrastinate, I am on that phone. I’m getting better but it is a true struggle some days when I am very down. Instead of doing things that could really lift me up or make me feel better – such as reading the Bible or a book or praying or writing or drawing – I go to that phone and zone out.

So if it is a struggle for an adult – yet we have a brain developed enough to know we need to stop – then it is really a struggle for young children/teens.

Sorry for going heavy on what is normally a light post but that really upset me this week.

Because Little Miss’s friends didn’t want to actually play, I ended up in the slip n’ slide with her and reinjured my knee a bit – not by sliding because I am dumb, but not that dumb. I literally said to myself, “Don’t kneel down on your knee when you get down to put your butt on the slide and scootch (word? I don’t know) down, and what did I do? Immediately, I knealt on my knee.

Luckily the pain didn’t last long and I was able to find other ways to play with Little Miss in the water and also cool myself off. I do not have any photographs from that experience and you wouldn’t want to see them anyhow. I am sure I looked quite ridiculous sitting on that slide with the water running around me. Sort of like a hog wallowing in mud.

Here are a couple photos from a few weeks ago of Little Miss with a friend doing the same thing. They are way more photogenic.

The Husband came home and immediately grabbed the house and soaked himself down, not even bothering to change out of his work clothes. That was how hot it’s been all week.

I stayed inside as much as I could because I, sadly, have legit health issues when I go into extreme heat. I spent my time watching the 1970s Nancy Drew/Hardy Boys show and giggling over it and planning to write a blog post about at least one episode.

On Friday we headed up to a town 20 minutes away to get our groceries and it was fun (not really) watching the car thermometer go from 85 to 88 to 95 when we drove into the town with all it’s concrete, asphalt, and brick buildings. I’m so glad it was just a quick pickup.

On the way back, rain started to fall and I watched the temp go down 20 points. It was amazing but by the time we made it back to our house, the temps had gone back up again. I thought the rain was following us and was very excited but then the clouds came over, dropped a few sprinkles, and moved on. Very sad.

(Look at those Pennsylvania roads — aren’t they just lovely. Yeah…..anyhow…)

Later that evening the dark clouds came in and there was lightning and thunder and we got excited again – hoping that would mean we would get a cooling rain.

Nothing happened. There was a crack of thunder, a flash of lightning, and then…nothing.

Today it is supposed to be more of the same – high temps and little relief with rain.

Tomorrow … yep, the same. By Monday the temps are supposed to be lower. About 80 and I’ll take that since our heat indexes have been in the 100s all week.

I hope all of you have been able to stay cool if you are in an area that was dealing with high temps this week. I also hope you remember to stay hydrated and not only with water but also with drinks that have electrolytes.

I sound like an old lady, now, I know.

“Make sure you’re staying hydrated!”

I just know the dangers of it since two weeks ago I was in the ER with what felt like a skipping heartbeat and they loaded me up with fluids and think that might have had something to do with how I was feeling. I think now the skipping feeling is actually related to something with my stomach, but they were right that I had not been drinking much that day.

Here is hoping that all of our upcoming weeks get better and we can enjoy summer instead of sweating through it!

The Do Nothing Summer

We really haven’t done anything this summer and I’ve felt guilty about it, but part of the time it couldn’t be helped.

This has been a fairly hot, humid summer and going outside to frolic in the fields hasn’t really been an option. Of course, one has to be cautious about frolicking in fields around here anyhow with all the Lyme Disease carrying ticks that our county has. The number of people we know hitting their beds due to Lyme is a bit overwhelming. My dad has been one of them and is frustrated with the exhaustion that often hits him.

We haven’t really visited playgrounds (okay, we’ve gone to two), or gone to the local pool near us (probably because my dad installed a large one at his house), visited the local libraries (probably because I always lose library books and end up paying for them) or had a fancy vacation (because we are poor). Quite frankly, we’ve been slugs.

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We still have a month before school starts, so hopefully, we can pack in some fun days before then. In the midst of trying to squeeze in some fun activities, I’m also researching additional homeschool curriculum since I plan to start homeschooling on August 26, something my son isn’t super thrilled with.

Homeschooling has been a blessing to us so far, even on the tough days. It’s been nice to be able to visit my parents even on school days, instead of visiting them only on the weekends. My son is able to spend days and nights with my parents while my dad teaches him life skills, such as do it yourself projects. My dad is either teaching my son or using him to help complete some projects around the house, either way, it’s a good learning experience for him.

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This summer my son helped his grandfather prepare the ground for a new pool behind the house, work on a shed near the house, and repair a tombstone of a family member at the local cemetery. They have also enjoyed quite a few breakfasts out together. One thing the weather this summer hasn’t allowed much time for is the long bike rides my son and dad usually take.

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Maybe we can all find something fun to do when the weather breaks and we don’t have to sweat through it. Thanks to the flexibility of homeschooling we will be able to do that even if it happens right when classes start again.

So, how about you? How is summer treating you? Have you been able to take a lot of trips, go to the pool, play at the playground (with or without children), or take some long bike rides? Or have you been a slug, like me this summer?

 

 

Four on Four | Ithaca NY Child Photographer

We have been enjoying the summer, taking things as the come and that has included playing in the puddles after a rain storm moved through recently.

Somehow my daughter ended up without clothes at one point, but, well, that’s what living life as a toddler is all about, right?

This post is part of a Four on Four blog circle through Clickin’ Moms. This is the time of the month when we choose four photos from either an event or simply taken in the previous month and then share them.

Enjoy other photographer’s work by following the circle. Next up is Chrissy Mazer