A book sale, a trip to a garden center, and what’s up with the turkey vultures in our area?

Today for our chat I am pulling out some tea, cocoa, lemonade, and even iced tea. What are you in the mood for?

This week’s weather isn’t really calling for lemonade since it will still be fairly cold, but I think lemonade can be good on any day.

I’m going to be having some peppermint tea with local, raw honey in it as we chat. My husband made it and oh wow. It’s so good.

*sniff* I needed this. (She said dramatically like she’s making a silly YouTube video.)

It’s gloomy and raining outside, but I don’t mind too much because I have my tea, my blanket, and a good book.

We did have some nice, warmer days this past week — nice enough that we spent a couple of afternoons and evenings outside playing and simply enjoying the warmth.

The Husband had three days off this past week so were able to spend time as a family relaxing on Thursday and then traveling to another town on Friday for a used book sale and a trip to a park.

On Thursday while we were sitting outside there was a huge flock of turkey buzzards or vultures circling the woods behind our house and then our house itself. It was really stressing me out, especially as their numbers started growing and they started lowering themselves. As far as I knew there were no dead animals around us but there were three living ones — my two cats and our dog — in the backyard.

At one point, Zooma the Wonder Dog ran into the yard and jumped up toward the birds. One of them began to lower itself and I yelled at it to go away. I then yelled at all of them.

“You get out of here! Go on! Go! You’re not taking my dog today!”

The Husband said I sounded like Fran Drescher from The Nanny while I was yelling. I didn’t take the remark as a compliment.

Either way, the birds started to move away. At one point there were close to 30 of them swarming the sky over my house. I searched online and learned that circling vultures doesn’t always mean they are looking for carrion, or dead animals, to eat.

Sometimes, if it is in the evening hours, they have probably arrived in the area that day and are preparing to roost for the night. I hope that was what has happening but later my neighbor told me the birds were circling when her dogs were out too.

Online is says buzzards/vultures can not physically lift a dog and also don’t take live dogs, but….I don’t know. This isn’t the first time this has happened when we’ve been outside.

Also, locally we call these birds “turkey buzzards”, but they are actually turkey vultures, according to information online. In the UK, buzzards are some other types of birds. Either way, these are pretty ugly and creepy birds and whatever they were doing, I didn’t like it.

Yesterday, The Husband, The Boy, and Little Miss and I traveled to a town about 45 minutes east of us to visit the library there for their bi-annual book sale. We also picked up some lunch at the local supermarket, visited a park to have a picnic, picked up our groceries (through pick up), and visited a garden store before stopping at a playground on the way home.

The most exciting find for me at the book sale was a box of The Hardy Boys Mystery books from the early 1940s. These books were actually published in the 1990s, but they are reprints of the originals, which were written in the 1930s or 40s.

The books were 50 cents each because they were in the children’s section. I double checked with the library ladies, but they insisted they were only 50 cents, so I picked up 19 of the some 28 books they had, including a book with three books in one.

They had three Nancy Drew Mystery books, but I already own those, so I didn’t get them.

Little Miss also picked out four cozy mysteries for me. She really enjoys doing that and has grabbed some great ones for me in the past. I was really excited that she grabbed another Amish Inn Mysteries for me to add to my growing collection of that series.

The Husband found The Count of Nine by Erle Stanley Gardner and said he has it on Kindle, but I said to grab the paperback. I never know when something might happen to one of our accounts, causing us to lose all of our books so I prefer to have paperbacks or hardcovers of books I know we will enjoy on our shelves. Our shelves are getting overrun, though. We are going to have to do something – like knock out a wall, build on, and create an entire room to be our library. I’m not sure the husband or our bank account will go for that but it would be very cool.

Anyhow, after the library sale we grabbed some lunch from the local supermarket and headed to a park. The kids played by the creek for a bit and then we headed to a small garden store that also sells . . . well, a lot of different stuff. It is a very relaxing place, and they carry some natural soda that I can actually drink. I can’t drink sodas anymore because of my corn allergy so it’s a treat to have some natural soda once in a while. This is also one of the local places where I can pick up some raw honey.

From there we made a stop at Walmart and Aldi (Aldi was just a  pick up thankfully) and then on to another park that has a zipline, slides, and access to a creek. Little Miss usually loves to explore the creek but this time she and her brother played on the zipline instead.

I’m not sure if I have ever explained this or not but when I write the word “local” that often means something different for people in my area. Local for us can be anything from 5 minutes to an hour away. When you live in a rural area, it can take a long time to get to “civilization.” For us, it is about 30 minutes one way to pick up groceries at an Aldi and in that town, there are a couple supermarkets and smaller stores but nothing larger like a Walmart. Forty-five minutes southeast, where we went yesterday, there is an Aldi, a Walmart, and a larger supermarket that carries more natural items. About an hour south, there are larger stores like Walmart, Target, Gamestop, Barnes and Noble, etc. About 90 minutes north we can find those stores as well.

Local, in other words, clearly means different things depending on where you live – a rural or urban area. If that wasn’t obvious already.

This upcoming week we don’t have a ton going on. The last night of the church program Little Miss goes to was last week. We might attend a library event in the town where The Husband works but other than that there is nothing on the agenda until the weekend when The Husband is taking Little Miss to an Easter egg hunt he is taking photos at for the newspaper.

How about you? How was your week last week and what do you have coming up for this week?

Saturday Afternoon Chat: Cold weather, evil, spell-casting cats, and family history

This past week our area was plunged into an arctic cold that had me wishing I could wrap myself in a cacoon of blankets and only crawl out to use the potty and get snacks.

I spent much of the beginning of the week acting like anyone who stepped outside our door into the arctic cold would immediately turn into ice and shatter.

“Don’t go out there!” I’d cry. “It’s so cold and you could get hypothermia! Frost bite!”

“Mom,” The Boy would say. “I’m just going to get some wood from the woodpile. Chill.”

Our animals stared forlornly out the windows at the snow that fell right before the temps dropped into single digits. Sometimes the cats would stare sadly at the back door and I would let them out. Sometimes less than ten minutes later they were looking in the window in our kitchen from the outside, their little faces panicked, as if I didn’t just tell them it was deathly cold outside.

Our cats have been curling up in front of the woodstove on most days and nights. They are much more cuddly than in warmer weather, as I have mentioned before. The youngest, Scout has even started curling up with me in the mornings before I am out of bed and it is during one of these cuddle sessions this morning that I was reminded how evil cats are. I am convinced they are sorcerers or sorceresses.

What Scout does is climb on my chest already purring. Then she bumps her nose against my nose and licks my chin. Her eyelids are all heavy and she sniffs the pillow next to me, bumping her head against my cheeks and chin and then finally curling up against my arm, next to my neck and shoulder. She snuggles as close to my face as she cans and begins to purr more in earnest, all while watching me with half-open eyes, drawing me into  her spell.

Sometimes she stretches her legs and paws out across my chest and purrs more, urging me into a deep sleep after I have already said I need to get out of bed and get the fire started.

“No,” she seems to say. “You will lay here. You will fall into a deep, all-consuming slumber. You will be delayed in starting your day. Why? Because I, your cat overlord, demand it. You are losing willpower. You are growing warm, cozy, and, most importantly, sleep. There you go. That’s right. Don’t fight it. Ignore the dog. She can pee later. What you need is me, your warm cat overload, your warm blanket, and the dreams of walking in a peaceful forest that I am now planting in your head. That’s right…you’re getting sleepy….”

Sometimes I wake up and she’s snoozing next to me – like she got some of her magic sleep dust on herself. Other times I wake up and she’s gone, and I wonder if she cast her spell so she can get up to some mischief elsewhere in the house.

This morning I fought her hard and finally managed to crawl out of bed and find some sunlight coming into our living room, which is welcome, but misleading since it is still only 25F (-3C), which is much better than 8F (-13).

It was so cold last week that not even our furnace, woodstove, and electric heat upstairs could seem to drive the cold out of our rooms.

I spent most of the week locked inside, watching Edwardian Farm, All Creatures Great and Small, and old movies.

I also read quite a bit.

On Thursday I was finally able to break free (“ I want to break free…I want to break free….” Sorry. I always end up humming songs with lyrics that matched what I just said. I know. I’m weird.) and go visit my parents while The Husband stayed at home and suffered through the cold the kids had had earlier in the week. I hadn’t seen my Mom since January 8 and had only briefly seen my dad during that time. Either it was too cold or I had sick children and was worried I’d be next and pass whatever virus we had on to them.

Somehow, I either managed to avoid the illness or had such minor symptoms that it did not hit me as hard.

At my parents I looked through a bunch of old photo albums and found some interesting photographs. One of those photographs I will share in a future blog post to tie up my posts about letters written between my great-great grandfather and his brothers during the Civil War.

Other photographs are photos I have seen many times over the years. They are from a photo album that my grandmother said belonged to Ivy, her aunt. I don’t know if Ivy took all of the photographs, but Grandma said she believed that she took some and collected the others. There are photographs of her sisters and my grandmother and her sister when they were babies. My grandmother was born in 1909 and Ivy died in 1915 so Grandma didn’t really remember her, but she remembered stories about her. Ivy passed away at the age of 29 from a kidney condition.

Based on the photographs of her and others in the book, she seemed like a very adventurous and fun person.

My favorite photo of her is this one:

This is her and her sister Carmen.


Second is this one:


I also like this one and wonder what she’s doing in this photo.

And I love this posed shot with these four women, though there was nothing written in the album to tell me who they are. I think one is Ivy and maybe Carmen again.

I just love their poses and the artistic elements of this shot.

The album, by the way, is made with photographs glued to black pages with no plastic to protect them.

I used to sit in the floor of my grandma’s living room, haul that album and other old loose photos out of a box and just pour over them. They fascinated me — the outfits, expressions, locations I could recognize from the tiny village I grew up in – a portal to life long ago.

There used to be a train station in the little village  (which is only a few houses and an old church and cemetery) I grew up in. There is a path by the creek that is overgrown but yet still features a cleared path where the train tracks used to be and that never seems to grow over no matter how many years have passed.  Parts of the stone used to build the railroad bridge is still located there, but most of the railroad tracks themselves are gone.

There is one photo in this book of a group of women and a few men sitting along the tracks and the platform. As I was preparing this post I noticed I had not taken a photo of that photo so I can’t share it here. That’s probably because it was a pretty dark photo – so dark I could barely make out the three men sitting behind the women in all white.

In the photo, though, I can recognize the exact spot it was taken even though it was 116 years ago. Behind the group, to the left would be the field where cows now roam and beyond that field is the house that I grew up in — a house built maybe 150 years ago.

The house is still standing but in not great shape and no longer owned by us.

The photographs that really interest me in this book are the  unique ones. The ones where no one is looking at the camera or if they are they are doing so it is in a playful way.

There is one photo where we can see a man through the bushes and I imagine he is on his way to the shore of the pond that used to be there behind the cemetery.

I have created this story in my mind that Ivy took that photograph of him secretly because she had a crush on him, or maybe they were an item. Further on in the book there is a photo of her with this same man. They are sitting in the buggy of a horse and carriage.

Maybe they weren’t “an item.” Maybe they are related somehow, but I don’t think I’ve ever seen the name in the genealogy.  

It’s always made me wonder if they ever had a relationship, but it ended because of her health issues. She never married before she passed away.

I’d better stop rambling about family history or this blog post could go on for a long time.

This is a subject I find myself blathering about to people who probably consider faking a heart attack just to get away from me.

We are expecting cold weather again this upcoming week but we have nowhere to go, other than maybe visiting my parents once or twice.

What have all of you been doing? How is the weather where you are? Do you have anything exciting going on during the upcoming week?

Do you live in a small town?

The other day a friend who lives outside of Detroit sent me a photo of part of her city from the sky at night. The caption said they hoped everyone liked the photo of their “small town.”


I texted my friend back. “Um…that isn’t a small town.”

And maybe I say that because the small town mentioned has 24,500 people in it.

The collection of towns my family and I moved out of in 2020 had between 12,000 and 15,000 and that was three small towns over two states that ran into each other.

The place I live now in is what I would call more a “village” than a “small town” but it is known as a small town. We have 454 as of 2022.

The characters in my books all live in small towns similar to the ones I lived in for almost 20 years with my family. They are a little bigger than where I live now, in other words. They probably are around the sizes of the town I lived in before we moved here, which by itself, without the other towns running into it, had a population of about 3,400.

In the Spencer Valley Chronicles, Molly Tanner and her family and friends live in and around Spencer, Pennsylvania.

In the Gladwynn Grant Mystery books, Gladwynn Grant moves from the fictional town of Carter, N.Y. to the fictional town of Brookstone, Pa.

Brooks one is probably about the size of a town near me that has about 2,700 in it. It’s the county seat of the county next to us and in my books, Brookstone is the county seat of Marson County, Pa.

Yes, all of my books take place in Pennsylvania, but that’s because that’s the state I know the most about.

The small towns in my books have hardware stores, diners, flower shops, supermarkets, and, most importantly, cute little coffee shops.

Gladwynn’s favorite coffee/bookshop is Brewed Awakening, a name I stole from a coffee shop that used to be located near where I live now and grew up. She loves to go there and visit with her friend Abbie Mendoza and choose a book from the bookshop in the back.

So I wonder – how small or big is the city or town you live in?

Is it as small as mine?

Saturday Afternoon Chat: Walking weather, cozy days for reading, and a fairly routine week

A cup of peppermint tea with honey, a piece of chocolate with coconut flakes, a warm blanket, and a book are the tools I have been using today as I try to relax.

Of course, I had a few household chores to do (dishes, yuck!), but otherwise, I am hoping this weekend to focus on reading and finishing the last couple of chapters of the book I am writing. Of course, after I finish it, I will have to go back and edit and do rewrites, but, hey, I’ll at least be done with the main draft.

Look at this, everyone!

The neighbor’s crocuses popped up this past week! So exciting!

Today the temperatures are falling, but on Monday the weather was nice and warm with the thermometer reaching 63. The Boy went for a five-mile walk in and around our small town earlier in the day.

I needed to get my youngest out of the house this week, so that day she and I went to my parents and had some lunch with my mom while my dad took Zooma the Wonder Dog for an impromptu walk.

Dad was planning the walk and decided Zooma could come along with him since she loves following him wherever he goes when she visits. I wish I had grabbed a photo of them walking together because Zooma really looks like she has a huge smile on her face when someone takes her on a walk.

Little Miss and The Boy took her on another walk yesterday since the weather was almost as warm as Monday and we knew today would be cold and rainy.

They took her on a walk after Little Miss and I drove 20 minutes to get our pickup order from Aldi and stopped at my parents to drop off the grocery items I had added to my order for them.

I walked a little bit down the road and the cats followed me, apparently very confused about why we had walked off the property for the first time in probably four months.

Both of their tails were puffed out so I guess they really were alarmed. Or they were having a fight between each other. Usually, those tails only puff up when they encounter an animal outside the family, though.

Today there is a book sale in a town close to where we get our groceries but I am being a good girl and not going to it. I have enough books to read – both physical and digital.

Still, I do find myself sitting here and wondering what treasures I am missing out on by not going. What if someone gave away a whole set of Nancy Drew books? Eek! The stress of it all.

I keep telling myself that I must be strong and simply grab the Nancy Drew books I haven’t read yet one at a time on Thriftbooks instead. I can do this, right?

Besides, there is an even larger book sale going on in a town 45 minutes from us in April so I will try to hold out until then.

Our area is also getting a bookstore soon. I don’t know what kind of books they will sell but it will be nice that there is a bookstore near us – even if it will be a 45-minute drive. Actually, it might be best it is that far away from me.

We don’t have a lot on tap this upcoming week but I’m sure plenty of things will come up for us to do. We are looking forward to some nicer weather so I am sure we will be at a playground at least once during the week.

How was your week last week? Do anything interesting?

What is coming up this week?

Sunday Bookends: Christmas Regency books, watching Christmas movies, and small-town Christmas event


It’s time for our Sunday morning chat. On Sundays, I ramble about what’s been going on, what the rest of the family and I have been reading and watching, and what I’ve been writing. Some weeks I share what I am listening to.

This week I’m joining up with Kimba at Caffeinated Reviewer, Deb at Readerbuzz, and Kathyrn at The Book Date.

What’s Been Occurring

It began to feel even more like Christmas this past week when we had our first, longer-lasting snowfall.

I thought we were only supposed to receive some sleet and freezing rain so I was surprised by the half inch on the ground the next morning.

My daughter was surprised as well and my son was thrilled because the two-hour delay meant he didn’t have to go to his trade school that day since he only goes for two and a half hours.

Little Miss was delighted to play in the snow with her best friend, Zooma the Wonder Dog, and I watched them some and then darted back inside to the warmth.

Inside the house, the Christmas tree is up, the fire is burning in the wood stove, and a cup of hot cocoa awaits.

I’ve never been a fan of extreme temperatures – either too cold or too hot.

The snow was gone by the next morning, which Little Miss was sad about. We thought we might have the chance for more snow Sunday into Monday but, alas, it is now going to be rain only and so much rain it might cause flooding.

We will have to see what happens.

Yesterday Little Miss had two friends over and I took them downtown to our small town’s Christmas event. There wasn’t a ton going on but there was a scavenger hunt that took them to several businesses in town to find photos of an elf and see what the elf was doing in each photo. They then had to write on the slip of paper what the elf was doing and return it to where they started for a prize. The prize was a York Peppermint Patty which I didn’t think was a very exciting prize for all that running around. The kids weren’t that impressed either but were okay with it. Little Miss doesn’t like peppermint but luckily I had some chocolate at home for her.

The town also had mini-fire pits set up throughout the town with s’mores kits for people to use, which I thought was a super cute idea.

Earlier in the day they had an ice carver, a cookie walk, and several vendors available in the one main building.

They also offered a semi-alive nativity display, which cracked me up when I read the title of it in the paper. Turns out that Mary and Joseph and Jesus and the wise men were cardboard cutouts but the animals were real. Little Miss was very disappointed she couldn’t pet the animals and grumbled about it the rest of the day.

We ended our jaunt downtown with some playtime at the tiny playground.

The library also had a used book sale during the event and unlike other times when I’ve come out of there with way too many books, I only came out with three and a DVD about World War II. One, they didn’t have a very exciting selection, and two I got way too many last time, and many of them I didn’t enjoy.

The books I picked up were another Nancy Drew:

This one by Brock Thoene (I’ve enjoyed books by him and his wife, Brodie, in the past):

And this middle-school-aged book that looked interesting to me and hopefully will be a good one for Little Miss later:

Our neighbors have added some extra lights to their Christmas display this year. For several years in a row they have won the town’s Christmas light contest, but last year they were unseated. My mom thinks they are trying to win it back this year since the husband has added another set of lights.

My dad gave us their old nativity set so all we have in our yard is a very subtle display and I’m okay with that. We can simply enjoy the neighbors and wait for the day the husband becomes Clark Griswold.

What I/we’ve been Reading

Last week I finished The Spectacular by Fiona Davis. I did not think it was spectacular, but it was okay.

I liked the story itself but I did not like the style of writing.

This week I am diving into Christmas books.

Erin from Still Life, With Cracker Crumbs told me about these Regency Romance books she would read every Christmas so I ordered one from Thriftbooks and it came this week so I started it yesterday.

It’s called Regency Christmas Wishes with novellas by five different authors.

Keeping with the Christmas theme, I’m also re-reading A Walt Longmire Christmas: Christmas in Absaroka by Craig Johnson.

Next I’ll be reading Southern Snow: A Sugartree Winter Romance by B.R. Goodwin.

I’m also still reading a chapter or two of Little Women but I left it at my parents so I won’t be able to read that until I get it back from them.

The Boy and I are putting The Tale of Two Cities aside for this month as we are both not focusing well on it. We will either restart it in January or put it off altogether until his senior year. I remember struggling through this book my sophomore year but really liking it once I got into it so I am sure once we can focus better (and buy cliff notes to figure out what he is talking about) we will be able to get through it.

This week we will be reading from books about World War II and I will be looking for books or material about World War I as I feel it is a war that isn’t as focused on as much.

Little Miss and are listening to The Best Christmas Pageant Ever by Barbara Robinson at night. I am also reading Christmas stories by Louisa May Alcott and L.M. Montgomery to her.

The Husband is reading In the Blood by Jack Carr.

What We watched/are Watching

This past week I watched Holiday Affair (1949), a couple episodes of Still Standing (a Canadian show) with The Husband, Signed, Sealed, And Delivered Christmas, and a couple episodes of Evening Shade.



What I’m Writing

I’m still working on Cassie and wrote maybe 4,000 words this week.

This week on the blog I shared:

What I’m Listening to

On Tuesday when I went outside to photograph the freshly fallen snow and listened to Michael Buble’s Christmas album but otherwise I haven’t listened to much this past week.

Photos from Last Week

I shared a couple of photos above but here are a few more from last week.

Blog Posts I Enjoyed This Past Week

Here are a few posts I enjoyed this week:

I Played Secretary Today by Various Ramblings of a Nostalgic Italian

The Last Year We Decorated Christmas Cookies With My Mom by Deb Nancy at Reader Buzz

A quick reminder that Erin and I still have a linky open for anyone who wants to join in our Comfy, Christmas Link Up. The link up will be open until January 2.

Now it’s your turn

Now it’s your turn. What have you been doing, watching, reading, listening to or writing? Let me know in the comments or leave a blog post link if you also write a weekly update like this.

Saturday Afternoon Chat December 2: A hodgepodge of thoughts about my week and the week to come

Dry skin. That’s what I’ve got right now.

Horrible dry skin from the dry air in our house.

Don’t worry – it just feels dry. I won’t describe how it looks because it doesn’t look bad. It just looks — pale and dry.

We don’t have a humidifier downstairs but I think we are going to have to get one because when I get dry skin it causes my entire body to feel inflamed with itchiness. It’s a horrible feeling and sometimes I have to practically bathe myself in lotion to get relief.

I have a soap I use from Cetaphil that is moisturizing and helps immensely.

I find it fairly cheap on Amazon and at Walmart (no, this is not a sponsored post. I promise.) but I’m sure you can find it in other places as well.

Cetaphil used to make an amazing lotion too, but they changed the ingredients earlier this year and I don’t think it works as well.

My mom keeps telling me to put lotion or coconut oil on right after a shower to help my skin absorb the moisture but I always forget and pay for it later.

What do you, dear readers, use to help your dry skin if you have it? My curious mind wants to know.

An uneventful week where we almost died . . .

This past week was a rather uneventful week.

The only day I had something to do was yesterday when I drove 30 minutes down and back to pick up our groceries. On our way there some driver decided he’d try to pass a truck and a car on a stretch of road right on a corner, where there were double lines, and in a spot on the highway near my parents where there have been a number of fatalities over the years. When I saw him in my lane I couldn’t believe it.

I laid on the horn and luckily, he yanked back into his lane but it was certainly a frightening experience.

I’m not sure what was so important that this person needed to risk everyone’s life but I have a feeling he needed a beer.

I’m kidding.

Sort of.

Tonight The Husband, Little Miss, and I are headed to a Christmas parade in a tiny town half an hour away. He has to attend the event for work and I decided Little Miss needs to get out of the house and see her friends because she’s so bored that she’s started asking The Husband and I to play Hide and Seek or Red Light, Green Light with her.

She’s really gotten desperate for entertainment apparently. We are not really the most fun and we are easily distractable.

A question for my readers . . .

This reminds me of a conversation I had with a friend recently. I said Little Miss wanted me to play dolls and stuffies with her and she said she was always impressed with how I played with my daughter because most parents she knows don’t do that.

I have a variety of ages reading my blog so my question to all of you is if you play(ed) with your children when they were young or if you did what my mom did which was essentially tell me to go find a way to entertain myself. She wasn’t rude at all. She just had work to do in the house and couldn’t sit and play all afternoon so she’d gently suggest I go draw or play with my dolls on my own if I asked.

I don’t even remember asking, actually. I was used to drawing or playing on my own a lot. I was sort of a lonely kid with only a handful of friends my entire childhood. In fact, I was a lot like Little Miss is now and only had two close friends (sisters) until junior high.

She also has two sisters as her friends.

Her other two friends moved to Texas in the summer but are returning for a visit around Christmas.

As a follow-up to the question of if you played with your children, did your parents play with you? I mean, I know most parents at least throw a ball with their kids or play some board games, but did you really sit down and play with the dolls and their stuffed animals?

I like to do that some with Little Miss because I think it helps to develop her imaginative play and I know how important play is to the development of a child. I can’t, however, do it all day like she wants me to.

Moving on . . .

Right now I am listening to Cozy Cafe Ambience – Relaxing Smooth Jazz Music with Rain & Thunder Sounds at Night on YouTube. I’m trying to drown out the noise of my house. We don’t have a lot of people in our house but it is very noisy.

Little Miss seems to think she has to have the TV on at all times, even while talking to her friends on a chat app while they play online games.

She’s not watching anything bad – it’s often a show on YouTube about reptiles that she likes. I don’t allow her to have YouTube on her phone anymore because she was watching all those Shorts and they were kicking out some very inappropriate stuff at her.

Even though the shows she watches aren’t bad, it’s constant noise.

I find it hard to focus on what I am writing with the constant chatter and interruptions. (How many times should a dog need to go out in an hour? Asking for a “friend.”) Sometimes I’m amazed I get any books or blog posts written but I do so by making myself get up early, before all the chatter starts, and also by going into the kitchen and sitting at the kitchen table where I’m a little bit more removed from the noise.

Oh and sometimes I just tell Little Miss to turn it all off! That helps too.

Today I goofed off this morning when Little Miss and others were sleeping so that’s my own fault for having to deal with the noise and activity.

We are having a slightly warmer day with rain forecasted for later on.

Then we will be dropping back into the 30s tomorrow. I know I was wishing for the cooler weather so I could cozy up under a blanket with a good book but on days like this when it isn’t exactly cold enough to light the fire but we don’t really want to turn the heat up too much and use up our heating oil, I find I don’t enjoy cuddling under a blanket as much as I hoped I would.

We do tend to romanticize the whole idea of a warm blanket, a cup of tea, and a good book, don’t we? We never factor in our cold nose or fingers, the cat that wants to warm up with us so she lays on our chest (right under our chin), or the way the tea gets really cold in the chilly air so we have to keep getting up to warm it up.

Or at least I don’t always think of all those negatives.

But, I think I’ll still continue to romanticize my life a little. Finding those little moments of magic are important, even if they aren’t as perfect as we had imagined. Plus, I have the option to turn the heat up, I have a roof over my head and a nice house, my family around me to make me laugh and smile (even if I sometimes have to tell them to be quiet so I can think.), I have food in my cupboards and fridge, and I have the luxury of being able to choose when I want to read or right – most of the time.

I’m very lucky and even though I grumble a bit from time to time (usually in jest, not a real grumble) I recognize that and I am grateful for it all.

“When it comes to life the critical thing is whether you take things for granted or take them with gratitude.”

— G.K. Chesterton

How was your week?

Did you do anything holiday-related yet?

Read anything good or have a fun experience?

Let me know in the comments.

The Story Behind the Photo: Days of Freedom

When the kids were really young they did crazy things in the backyard of our house in town. Apparently, it was more fun to be crazy in a town where everyone could see them. When we moved to a smaller town, they weren’t as crazy anymore. In our old town, they filled tiny pools with water and jumped in in their underwear. My daughter ran around in her diaper almost all the time, even on the very busy street in front of the house, which sort of drove my husband nuts because he felt it made us look like we weren’t taking care of our children.

Looking back, I totally see his point but he and I both also recognized that children should be allowed to be children. I look back at those messy, crazy, full-speed days and I miss them like I thought I would.

I miss the freedom of them. I miss the unstoppable energy, the unbridled joy, the unrestrained exploring, and the intense curiosity.

Recently, on our third re-read of the Little House books, I had to roll my eyes once again at Ma (Caroline Ingalls) reminding Laura and Mary that children are to be seen and not heard.

I have always hated that saying. I want my children to be seen, to be heard, to be held, to laugh and have fun and make messes and learn from it all.

The Story Behind the Photo: Mud

Growing up my children really liked making messes outside.

In this photo, my son had added water from the hose to the already starting mud in our side yard.

He and my daughter made a type of mudslide, even though the yard was flat. They slid all over in that mud, made holes and filled it with water, splashed mud and water, piled the mud up, and rubbed it all over themselves.

Bottom line?

They had a blast.

We lived on a fairly busy street at the time, right across from the high school. People who drove by probably thought one of two things: 1) I was a horrible parent who let my kids make all kinds of messes and took photos of them doing it or 2) I was the best mother in the world because I let my kids make all kinds of messes and took photos of them doing it.

Either way, I don’t care.

My kids had fun.

They had real childhoods.

They lived in the moment.

They don’t do that as often anymore. Not with the messes. They still live in the moment and I still let them be kids. They still have a real childhood.

I can’t lie, though, if they poured some mud and water down the hill in the backyard of the house we live in now and slid down it and covered themselves all over in mud . . .

I’d totally let them.

I’d grab my camera, and would absolutely love photographing it.

#letthembelittle

A Photo A Day in May

Back at the end of April I had decided I would take a photo a day in May. That would have been a great idea, if I had remembered I had challenged myself to do that. Sigh.

As I mentioned on my Saturday Afternoon Chat post, I didn’t do very well to begin with, but I am back on track. I also plan to stretch the challenge into June to make up for the lost days.

I thought I’d share the photos I took when I remembered to do so. I also have a couple of photos I took on a day, but didn’t take for the project. It was simply a photo I took for one reason or another.

I added a couple of extra photographs from each day as well.

May 1

No photo. Oops.

May 2

May 3

May 4

May 5

May 6

May 7

No Photo

May 8

No Photo

May 9

May 10

May 11

May 12

May 13

May 14

My breakfast for Mother’s Day from Little Miss.

May 15

No photo. Oops.